#MarchWritingChallenge – Day 14 – How do you reign in self-critical voices?

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This March Writing Challenge of thirty-one questions is hosted by Marquessa, with questions from Alexandra Franzen‘s “100 questions to spark conversation and connect.

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We’re all our own worst critic. Sometimes that isn’t a bad thing.

I see myself differently now than I did in my younger days.

Then I was critical of myself through the gaze of others.

Now I go my own way thanks to the wisdom of the years.

When my self-critical voices start, I know I’m veering off course.

I don’t hear the voices as often and have a lot more peace.

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#MarchWritingChallenge – Day 13 – How do you engage with panhandlers on the street?

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This March Writing Challenge of thirty-one questions is hosted by Marquessa, with questions from Alexandra Franzen‘s “100 questions to spark conversation and connect.

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It really depends on the situation, but I do try to help.

I rarely give cash but have no problem buying a meal for someone.

However, sometimes it’s not about cash or food.

Years ago, I was out for dinner and a movie with my late husband and his brother. An old guy was sitting on the ground, leaning back against a storefront. He said something as we passed that I couldn’t hear and Den and Larry ignored. They kept walking but I turned around.

It was a cold night, but except for a dirty trench coat, all he was wearing was a beat up pair of house slippers and pajama pants that were too short for his lanky, thin frame.

Den tried to pull me away, but I wouldn’t budge. Then he and Larry got on either side of me and tried to pull me away together, and I began the Mother of all Meltdowns!

Did I mention I was seven months pregnant with our first child?

Yeah. Every emotion went on full blast as I bawled and wailed about how he could be someone’s father and grandfather and shouldn’t be sitting on the cold ground on a dark San Bernardino side street.

They knew they wouldn’t win this one and just as they began forming a plan… a cop drove through the intersection. Den flagged him over. He questioned the guy and found out he was a veteran who was SUPPOSED to have been moved from the local hospital to the VA, but instead some guy he didn’t know put him in a van and dropped him off downtown.

I was furious! No way some random guy took him from the hospital without them arranging it… but that’s a rant for another day.

The officer called someone who was also a vet, and he came and picked the guy up—found out his name was Glen—and said he’d give him dinner and a warm bed for the night and promised to get him to the VA in the morning.

I was satisfied. Den and Larry kept apologizing for being shallow and flippant, but I wasn’t upset with them. Panhandlers and street people are invisible to society for a variety of reasons. People will go out of their way to not engage with them.

While it may be rare, sometimes they’re not looking for a handout or even a meal, but for a few minutes of your time.

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#MarchWritingChallenge – Day 12 – Have you ever unplugged from the Internet for more than a week?

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This March Writing Challenge of thirty-one questions is hosted by Marquessa, with questions from Alexandra Franzen‘s “100 questions to spark conversation and connect.

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Sure have! And it’s probably time to do it again for my own sanity. 😀

Unfortunately, it’s not quite as easy as it was even a year ago.

Not every one is involved in social media, blogging, or watching cat videos.

But it can be a Herculean feat to conduct business without the Internet.

Call any business, private or government, and the menu will always refer you back to their website or app which sometimes can be an exercise in futility when you cannot find your particular issue address or the website and app are simply migraine-inducing. (I’m looking at you, CVS!)

Don’t want to go online? Not a problem, but you could end up in the queue for thirty minutes or more.

The last three doctors I’ve had REQUIRED certain documents be completed online prior to appointments.

Some vendors will recommend paperless accounts and billing is handled via email and websites. No one HAS to do it this way, but every paper billing received will have an insert encouraging you to “go green.” Some businesses will even charge for having to mail out a paper bill.

While I was using grocery delivery for over a year before the coronavirus pandemic, it’s now a near necessity for those of us in high-risk groups, or that are simply tired of people refusing to wear masks and social distance.

Vendors now entice us to shop online with “online only” bargains, double fuel points, and rewards cards.

The internet makes staying connected with family and friends easy. Shoot off an email, post to their social media accounts or start a video call, because who writes letters anymore? What’s even weirder is the growing dislike to talk on the phone!

I confess to having a private chatroom with my three adult children and one with six of my siblings. Though we all do end up online at times, usually we drop posts, comments, memes, and photos at random, 24/7. My daughter and I may have set records for the longest video chats. 😀

So when I say I’m taking a break from the Internet, I mean social media and blogging, because to walk away from the Internet altogether would be taking a break from life.

Hmm… now that I think about it… 😀

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#MarchWritingChallenge – Day 11 – Have you ever stolen anything? (Money, candy, hearts, time?)

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This March Writing Challenge of thirty-one questions is hosted by Marquessa, with questions from Alexandra Franzen‘s “100 questions to spark conversation and connect.

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Mom was the Terminator decades before the Terminator was a thing. If she said don’t do something, you didn’t. Period.

Walk into a store and steal? Nope. I wasn’t giving my mom a reason to kill me. I chose to live.

Daddy was Judge Dredd. His word was law. He said, “Go ahead, act a fool. Get arrested if you want to, but do not call me because I’m not coming to get you.”

I had eight siblings and that call never came from any of us. We knew Daddy was not to be played with. (Okay, there was that one time in the late 60s when my older sis took part in a some big street protest. The police herded all the students back into the high school, and parents were called. Daddy. Was. Not. Happy.)

While I never stole from a store, that doesn’t mean I didn’t steal. Five of those eight siblings were sisters, and four of us were close enough in age and size to wear some of the clothes.

Toss in a vat of PETTY and things “disappeared” all the time.

Wonder if Cleo still thinks about her favorite yellow sandals? 😀 😀 😀

Oh, and there was that whole thing with Napster and music downloading, but I’ll plead the Fifth.

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#MarchWritingChallenge – Day 10 – Have you ever been genuinely afraid for your physical safety?

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This March Writing Challenge of thirty-one questions is hosted by Marquessa, with questions from Alexandra Franzen‘s “100 questions to spark conversation and connect.

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Boomers are the last generation to have enjoyed the freedom of an unfettered childhood, meaning, as long as we were home before the street lights came on, we played, explored, and visited friends without fear of murderers or sexual predators. Or maybe that was just my small mid-western town.

However, everything changed in the early 70s when a first-grader was grabbed off the street and murdered less than a mile from her home.

Panicked, parents arranged neighborhood carpools so children didn’t have to walk to and from school alone. Unfortunately, if you had after-school sports or cheerleading practice, you could end up walking home alone.

And I had both.

I lived just over a mile from my junior high school, all residential area, except for the last quarter mile past the Old Mill Pond. There were shoulders wide enough for a car to park and no sidewalks. It wasn’t a truly deserted spot as I could see my big blue house the entire way, but nearing dusk, the wind moving through the trees was spooky.

One evening I was half the distance past the pond when a car approached. I stepped farther onto the shoulder and the car continued past me. The old pukey, seafoam green station wagon was not a vehicle I recognized from the neighborhood. The car made a U-turn in the intersection behind me and came back in my direction.

I picked up a stick.

I kept walking but turned to watch the car approach. Tinted windows weren’t a thing then, but it creeped me out that as the car passed me, I couldn’t see inside. The car slowed but didn’t stop until it got to the corner just before my house. My heart raced as the car did a three-point-turn and started toward me, driving closer to the shoulder.

I’d just reached the spot where the sidewalk started—three-hundred-yards from my front door—and I broke into a sprint, never stopping or looking behind me. I collided with my brother at our front door. I guess I was a sight because he yelled for our parents. My family gathered around me as I tried to catch my breath. All Daddy had to hear was, “an old green station wagon kept driving by me,” and he and my brother were out the door. I didn’t know I was shaking until my sister brought me a glass of water and I couldn’t hold it.

Daddy didn’t find the car, which may or may not have been a good thing, nor did I sleep a wink that night. But my parents took me to the police department early the next morning to file a report.

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#MarchWritingChallenge – Day 9 – Has a teacher ever changed your life? How so?

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This March Writing Challenge of thirty-one questions is hosted by Marquessa, with questions from Alexandra Franzen‘s “100 questions to spark conversation and connect.

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I was fortunate to have many great teachers during my school years, but one will always stand above the rest.

Leon Buford – my fifth grade teacher, and my first African-American teacher.

He was an amazing teacher who not only made learning fun… and sometimes hilarious, but there was a nugget of wisdom and personal responsibility in every lesson.

It was Mr. Buford who first instilled in me not to react to the actions of others. He said people will use all forms of manipulation, even friendship and tears, to exercise control. We’re not responsible for their words and actions, only how we respond to them.

Those words are seared into my brain and not only guided my life decisions, but I passed them on to my children.

Mr. Buford passed away two years ago after teaching hundreds of children in the classroom, and continuing to serve their educational needs as a principal and district administrator.

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#MarchWritingChallenge – Day 8 – Do you think you’re currently operating at 100% capacity?

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This March Writing Challenge of thirty-one questions is hosted by Marquessa, with questions from Alexandra Franzen‘s “100 questions to spark conversation and connect.

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Are you kidding me? I’ve been running on coffee and Grace since May 30, 2019.

Some days I believe I’ve reached the acceptance phase of grief and it’s time to go to work, but then depression gut checks me and I’m back at square one which means no writing gets done.

I admire writers who continued to publish books in the last year and send them all big KUDOS! I’m just waiting for the day when I can join them again. 😉

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#MarchWritingChallenge – Day 7 – What was your very first job?

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This March Writing Challenge of thirty-one questions is hosted by Marquessa, with questions from Alexandra Franzen‘s “100 questions to spark conversation and connect.

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Like most teenage girls, my first job was babysitting… my five younger siblings; and no, there was no pay! 😀

But the experience paid off when my Mom recommended me to her coworkers, who in turn told their friends about me.

I was in business! LOL!

On a lark, I applied for a summer job at a day care center when I was fourteen… and got the job. The kicker is I kept the job right up to the summer I left for college, working summers and after school during the school year.

I didn’t forget about my private customers though, and my nights and weekends were often booked solid.

My name got around as a responsible babysitter who brought arts & crafts and books with her, and by the time I reached high school, I was babysitting for teachers, members of the police department and several of my Mom’s coworkers. I started passing jobs to my younger sister, and she would eventually pass on jobs to our younger sister.

I’m still in touch with several of the children I babysat for, and some are even Facebook friends, including the first infant I took care of… who turned FORTY last year. YIKES! 😀

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#MarchWritingChallenge – Day 6 – What are you freakishly good at?

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This March Writing Challenge of thirty-one questions is hosted by Marquessa, with questions from Alexandra Franzen‘s “100 questions to spark conversation and connect.

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My sibs called me Spock (Star Trek) and The Professor (Gilligan’s Island) because I had a knack for organizing/planning/fixing things. From pranks on our parents to repairing (or hiding) damage done in their absence, I was the go-to fixer.

It carried over into adulthood and spread outside the family and I became “The Facilitator!” 🙂

Weddings, funerals, bake sales, t-shirt fundraisers, potlucks, I’ve done them all, big and small. I never turned down a donation of anything (had to get REAL creative with twenty-four bales of hay donated for a PTA picnic on country property), and I never went into the red on project or event.

I’ve also orchestrated quite a few adult pranks, but I’m not publicly owning up to which ones. Statute of limitations and all. 😀 😀

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#MarchWritingChallenge – Day 5 – What’s the worst piece of advice you’ve ever been given?

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This March Writing Challenge of thirty-one questions is hosted by Marquessa, with questions from Alexandra Franzen‘s “100 questions to spark conversation and connect.

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My teacher pulled me aside one day, wearing a huge smile, and complimented me on my attention to detail and organizational skills. She then strongly recommended I reconsider attending a state university and instead enroll in the local business college because I’d make a fantastic secretary.

I felt confused and awkward…. because I was an honor student with a spot already paid for at a top state university. I was only in her Business Infrastructure and Office Machines class because, like many of my fellow seniors, I’d more than satisfied the credit requirements for graduation. Instead of a winter ceremony, we opted to take the legal class enrollment minimum (3 classes) so we could graduate with our class in the spring.

Her class was simply filler and she knew this.

She also knew I had a university spot waiting for me in the fall.

I told my guidance counselor and my mom, who both had words with her. She approached me two days later with the same huge smile (and what I now realize was fake sincerity) and said she hoped she hadn’t upset me but really did feel I’d be a great secretary.

Yeah. That was the apology.

I later learned she gave this same career advice to several other female students. African-American female students.

Microaggression, marginalization, and misogyny… with a smile, and I didn’t even know it at the time.

Wonder how many others were graced with her great advice?

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