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This March Writing Challenge of thirty-one questions is hosted by Marquessa, with questions from Alexandra Franzen‘s “100 questions to spark conversation and connect.
All are welcome to join in and a list of the questions can be found here.
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I got carried away with this one out the gate! 😀
I stopped myself after listing sixteen things I’d discuss with fifteen-year-old me.
After going over the list several times, I threw it out.
What did I want to tell a younger Felicia? Do I tell her of all the pitfalls coming her way? When to go left instead of right? When to stay or when to go?
None of the above.
I have no love for some of the things I’ve gone through over the years, but I’d like to believe I gained some insight and/or wisdom from them. Okay, okay, most of them, but even if I didn’t, I am the sum of my experiences, good and bad and I like me.
I also wouldn’t want to be like Dr McCoy, time-traveling and changing history in The City on the Edge of Forever. Then Kirk and Spock have to follow him to timeline order which includes allowing Edith Keeler, the woman Kirk has fallen in love with, to die in a traffic accident.
Don’t want to be directly responsible for someone’s death, right? 😉
So what would I tell fifteen-year-old Felicia?
1.Mom and Daddy are always right! Listen to them.
It’s annoying and I hate to admit, but my parents were right… about all of it.
2. You do not have to do it ALL! Asking for help is not a bad thing.
Up until ten years ago, I always took on too many tasks. Sometime to my own detriment.
3. Follow your FIRST mind. Trust yourself.
I’ve overthought myself into some horrible situations simply because I didn’t trust myself.
4. The answer is always no.
This goes hand-in-hand with #2. When I learned to say no, the earth did not open up and swallow me whole. I still accomplished much, just without the stress. The more you say yes, the more people will ask of you.
5. Don’t worry, be happy.
I’m generally a happy person, but I’m sure I’ve spent years not only worrying about the plights of others, but the fact that I couldn’t fix it. I’m not the peoples Fairy Godmother. It’s okay to empathize… and keep it moving.
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Oh, I love your list, especially #4 and #5. 😀
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Thanks, Pamela. They’re almost like self-care.
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FYI – I’m having problems commenting on your blog. Haven’t figured out why exactly. I write the comment and press enter but nothing happens. When I refresh the page, the “Post Comment” box disappears. Hasn’t happened to me on other blogs. Will keep working on it.
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Oh, sorry to hear that. I’m not sure why that is happening. I will check my end as well.
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I have been having that problem as well, especially if I try via my cell…
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I agree with them all except #1. It took me a while to realize that in addition to being parents, my folks are “human” and therefore were not 100% right about everything.
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Oh, agreed! I should have specified I meant “life lessons.” I had so many ‘a-ha moments,’ from my late teens into my 30s when I’d hear their words as I went through different situations. Then I’d think, “How did they know?” 😀
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